Outer Body ptDeux

When I first started this blog I honestly had no idea what I was doing, or why. (proof that some things never change) I knew that I was starting out on a leg of my personal journey that I needed to talk about and this seemed like a good outlet. It has served me well in that regard, there are things I have said in here long before I had the courage to speak them aloud or an available ear to listen. What has absolutely astonished me is that there have been others benefit from it, every now and then one of them contact me and it is pretty amazing to hear their perspective on what they have read – they aren't always positive, but they are great to receive.

Anyhoo – in my last post, “Outer Body”, I talked a bit about reclaiming the pieces of ourselves that we have given away or lost. I got a message a bit after posting it; asking:

“When you talked about reclaiming..how do you know when it's time?”

To over-simplify it, it is time when you notice something missing. It's important (although sometimes difficult) to remember that the other person hasn't taken anything from you, you gave it to them. They haven't wronged you – in fact it may well be quite the opposite. That is why I think the more important thing than the time, is the intent... It is hard to think of “reclaiming” something without attaching an air of finality to the act. In my perspective, this is not necessarily the case. While attaining closure can certainly be a motive for this sort of thing ( it defiantly was in some of the cases for me), it can also be looked at simply as a “reset”. In other words, if you decide to sever ties or close that door you can, but merely reclaiming the parts of yourself is not the same thing. Just like anything in life, it is the choices we make as we go along that determine that outcome. To maintain wholeness requires resolve. If you don't have it, manufacture some – takes a bit for it to take hold, but it works just the same.